Dating Pt. 2

I received an email recently and these were some of the questions I was asked about. (Question in bold first, then my response after)

Regarding dating (I know you had a post already), I am wondering if you feel that your potential partner would need to be close to your height/as tall as you. If this is your hope/expectation, I'm wondering if you have tried to challenge this notion, and what your thoughts were around it.
When someone asks me to describe my ideal partner my first thought is taller than me and then I go straight to intangible qualities. So yes, I would love to date/marry someone taller than me, but a lot of that has to do with romanticized ideals about relationships. I have actually always challenged this. There have been a couple guys in my life that I was really into that were quite a bit shorter than me. Lots of other circumstances caused things to not work out. Long ago someone asked me if I would marry someone shorter than me and all I could think was “I can’t say no because then it is for sure going to happen” and I don’t mean that in a bad way at all haha I just mean and have always said if I fall in love with someone shorter than me their height won’t make me change my mind.

Is height something that is important to you in others, your friends? If it is, is this largely because you feel more comfortable with taller people, relating to shared experiences?
I’ve honestly never really cared if my friends were tall, mostly because most of my friends came from the volleyball teams I was playing on and there are some tall girls and some short girls and I got along with who I got along with. I’ve said this before, it is hard to go out sometimes with shorter friends just because I feel like I stand out extra because of the contrast between our group but that has more to do with me as a person and the fact that I hate being center of attention than the fact that I care if my friends are tall or not. 

I have noticed that many other tall ladies I've talked with feel that height is a dealbreaker for their potential partner. But at the same time they hate when guys treat their height as a dealbreaker, telling them they are "too tall". Because it sucks to be judged for something you were born with. Yet many of these same ladies refuse to consider many people out of the gate because they are too short. I'm guessing this is something you've thought about in depth. I'd be curious to hear your thoughts on that topic.
Usually if someone won’t date someone shorter than them, they don’t really care if someone doesn’t want to date them because they are taller than them. 
Personally I try really hard not to be set on one exact idea of a person. I’ve gone on every date I was actually asked on. There is this quote by Gordon B. Hinkley that says, “get on your knees and pray, then get on your feet and work” and basically this and some other teachings from my church are teaching that you can’t just expect everything to come to you even if you pray for it. You have to put in some effort to get the things you want. So if I want to meet the right person I have to be okay going on lots of dates and putting myself out there. 
At the same time though, I know quite a few people who have said they will not marry or even date someone shorter than ____. From another point of view I don’t think there is anything wrong with knowing what you do want and setting those standards, but that doesn’t give you the right to treat someone poorly because they don’t meet those standards. For example, if I use a dating app, (which I would prefer not to but I definitely have) and I can set a height preference I do, because if I have to base my choices off of all things superficial anyway I will be as specific as I can. And all I have to say to you is if someone doesn’t want to get to know you because of your height they probably aren’t worth your time anyway.

I could tell you from my POV as a shorty, I have felt the insecurity that a taller lady would feel uncomfortable in my presence, because I make her feel tall. Of course, this is not my fault. I'm wondering and hoping that this is something that is in my head, but I get the sense that there is some truth to it. I'm wondering, from your POV, what it is that can be done to bridge that gap. What can be done to transcend these superficial judgments we make of people based on appearance instead of connection? What can I do to make a taller lady feel more comfortable when interacting with her? This is something I do wonder.
As people I truly do believe that we should relate to each other based on our personalities and how well we connect to each other as people. I do think that we allow superficial things to cloud our judgment a lot. I get the sense that you feel that, as someone who is likely profiled or seen as a "tall person" when there's obviously so much more to you than that.
Yeah I wish I had the correct answers for you but I’m pretty sure this is gonna depend on each individual person. All I can do is tell you how I feel from my perspective. I can say though that I know several married couples where the girl is taller than the guy and they are as happy as can be.
I don’t know if this question meant that tall girls feel uncomfortable in your presence no matter what or in the eyes of dating, but I’ll try and answer both. I don’t feel uncomfortable around people shorter than me simply interacting, but I am more inclined to go on a date with a stranger that asked me out if they are taller than me versus shorter. This might sound strange but just bare with me while I try to explain. I am a woman, and in a relationship I want to feel like a woman. There are so many times that I stand next to anyone shorter than me and I just feel big and in a way I feel manly. When I say this to people they tell me no way, but I do. I’m not even extremely bulky from working out but that adds to it. And I love being a strong woman, but sometimes around people who are shorter than me and skinnier than me I feel like a guy when I want to be a girl. Sam Moore told me to stop saying “I hope this makes sense” but honestly lots of people don’t get it or understand. Which is fine you’re not me and I don’t expect you to feel how I feel, but this is a big part of why I would like to date someone taller than me.
So personally the best way to bridge that gap is to try and get to know me as a friend. It takes me time to open up to people and feel comfortable. If you spend time being friends and seeing if we click that way I am more inclined to think about what comes next. Realizing under the pretense of friends that I enjoying spending time with you as a person make me want to do that more often.  
I want to say, the worst thing for me is when someone totally random comes up to me and asks for my number and I have no idea who they are, but I just did that to a guy at the gym so I don’t really have room to talk. I guess what I am trying to say with that is if you feel like you’re not gonna see that person again, shoot your shot by all means, but if you have a chance to get to know them better first, personally that would help me. But again I am being super hypocritical because if that guy from the gym ever sees this he’d probably tell you I freaked him out by being so forward but sometimes you’ve just gotta go for it. I felt like I had nothing to lose haha so I did it. 

Please feel free to share your thoughts, perceptions, views, and opinions about these questions. I know I don’t speak for all tall girls out there, but maybe there are some things I mentioned that you agree with, and maybe you have a totally different response to one of these questions, so shed some light from your perspective! We would all love to hear it!